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The Hasty Heart: Making Fast, Impromptu Decisions Can Sabotage Your CareerJuly 24, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
This week the Obama administration accepted full responsibility for the hasty firing of Shirley Sherrod, State Director of Rural Development for the United States Department of Agriculture. After an excerpt of her address to a March 2010 NAACP meeting was posted on the Andrew Breitbart Big Government website July 19, both right wing and left media commented on what seemed a blatant act of reverse racism. Was Sherrod declaring she had misgivings about helping a farmer keep his farm because he was White? In truth, Sherrod, a black woman, described her understanding of the situation and her struggle to make a decision that would help the white farmer. Her speech was about racism – and not racist. White House spokesperson, Robert Gibbs, said, “I can’t speak for everybody involved, but I think we live in a culture [where] things whip around. People want fast responses, we want to give fast responses, and I don’t think there’s any doubt that if we look at this, one of the great lessons we take away from this is to ask all of the questions first and to come to that full understanding.” As a result Sherrod’s ousting and the subsequent media blitz, the entire week seemed devoted to sidestepping, apologizes, angry vindictive against the left and right media. And though a majority of politicians and journalists slammed the blogger for “jumping the gun,” Ann Coulter defended him. “He’s the victim!” she screamed. The time and money spent to clear up an issue that might have been dismissed in seconds is symptomatic of our need to say things quickly without thinking them out first. As a manager or supervisor, do you ever jump to conclusions? Have you ever fired anyone too quickly? Do you look at financial figures and immediately cut jobs cut marketing, cut inventory without carefully poring over the numbers? What’s it take to change the way we think so we avoid making hasty, unfortunate decisions? Tune in this week to Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary’s insultant/consultant show, Sunday July 25, 2010, http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant to learn some tips for avoiding this misguided behavior. Posted in The Mouth Trap | 2 Comments » What We May Learn From the Kagan Nomination HearingsJuly 3, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
“She is smart, “declares the Christian Monitor. “She is learned in the law. And she has the ability to function well under extreme pressure. She’s also funny.” What Elena Kagan is not, apparently, is someone who talks too much, divulges secret agendas, and discloses her views on undecided issues that may be facing the Supreme Court over the next few decades. This suggests a strange yet interesting dichotomy for most of us who communicate every day at work. What do we disclose when we are interviewed for a job? How much information do we share with co-workers on controversial policies or procedures? When do I state my opinion? And when is it better to do the side-step shuffle – as many senators describe Kagan’s behavior. She is accused of choosing ones words too carefully, saying just enough about a point of view without telegraphing how she might vote in the future. Have you ever faced a similar dilemma at work? Many decades ago when I running for chairperson of an English department at a Los Angeles community college, I had to vote on a particular controversial issue. Hard to believe this caused a fist fight at a senate meeting, but here was the battle: Should we ditch the one year grammar program and replace it with a tutorial writing program that would eliminate the use of grammar exercises and instruction? In other words, do we seal the fate of two instructors who built this program from scratch and taught it for over a dozen years? If their program disappears, they will have to teach other classes, transfer to another college, and/or retire The vote naturally impacted my future because I was up for re-election as chairperson. If I voted in favor of keeping the traditional grammar program, many teachers would boycott my nomination. And if I voted against the program, two very valuable and sometimes brilliant instructors would probably do everything in their power to undermine my authority, once I was elected. Yes, it was a secret ballot, but as you know, in small departments, there are no secrets. Do I side-step the issue and do a Kagan-esque dance that would keep me neutral (and keep my department guessing)? Or, should I make my views known so I establish my perspective, risking my future as a college administrator? What do we learn from these recent Supreme Court nomination proceedings and how might this influence the way we communicate with our boss and our co-workers? To find out what I did – and hear Dr. Brian’s reaction – (we rarely ever agree) —- tune into the Insultant/Consultant Radio Show this July 4th at 9:30 AM (PST) Sunday morning http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Posted in The Mouth Trap | 37 Comments » When Does Following the Rule Become a Public Relations Nightmare?June 25, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
Once upon a time, there was a little ten year old girl, named Carly, who sat with her two sisters, Annie and Rebecca, on a flight heading from Atlanta to Milwaukee, when a mean Flight Attendant came up to her and said, “You have to get rid of your turtle.” “My turtle?” the girl asked. “You mean Neytiri?” “Yes, and you need to do it right now.” . “But I was told to just put the cage under my seat? What am I going to do? She’s my turtle.” The mean Flight Attendant took a deep breath and squinted her eyes. “No. Federal regulations – see Clause 3456 – state no turtles allowed on Air Tran. We’re taxi-ing back to the gate, taking you and your sisters off, delaying the flight a full hour, so we’re asking you right now: Get out of your seats and take the turtle off this airplane, or we’ll have to call security.” So the teary-eyed Carly and her two sisters lifted the cage with the two inch turtle inside as the Pilots and mean Flight Attendant escorted the sisters off the jet way. “When you say get rid of it, what do you mean?” The teary-eyed Carla asked. “Throw it in the trash and get back on the airplane,” the mean Flight Attendant said again.” You’re holding up the entire Trans Air Airline. What do you think we have all day?” So Carly, Rebecca and Annie reluctantly placed the caged two inch turtle in a trash bin, quickly called their father in hopes he might retrieve the animal before it got dumped into the sewers of Atlanta, and re-boarded the airplane. Now I may have embellished this story a bit – it’s sort of Airplane Meets Snow White — but truly, this is based on a factual story, and the airline delayed a flight, forced passengers to wait at least an hour, and created a PR nightmare (broadcast around the world) just so that they could follow the letter of the law: No turtles on domestic or International flights. I have to admit - I have a hard time with this. What’s the big deal? So the turtle breaks the rules. It’s a little, tiny pet, and let’s face it – it got through security. The little girl even asked if she could put it under her seat and she was told that was fine.My take? Let poor Neytiri stay in her cage under the seat. Put the rule aside and move on. Or, do you follow the letter of the law, and handle this uncomfortable situation with perhaps kit gloves? (Trans Air obviously didn’t do a good job of this). Listen to BlogTalk radio, http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Tune in this Sunday to listen/hear the Insultant/Consultant take on this. How do you deal with the breaking of rules at your company? When does it become a Public Relations nightmare and how can you avoid that? E-mail questions to Gary@themouthtrap.com
Posted in The Mouth Trap | 5 Comments » How is our Dad with us at work & home?June 23, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
Every day now when I look in the mirror, I see my dad.
Age, I guess, does that to you, but I’ve been seeing my dad in me for decades.
When my kids were little, I read to them from the same Golden books that my dad read to me. I took the time to help my kids with their English homework, editing (sometimes rewriting their sentences) much as my dad had done when I was struggling in high school.
Just as he would often finish a phone conversation with “I love you,” I do the same with my kids. And the respect and love he showed for my mother, often leaving love notes strewn across every chairs and sofas throughout the house like fallen leaves, may not have quite inspired me but encouraged me to never be embarrassed by that mushy romantic stuff..
But the most important influence my dad had on me was his love of writing and his skill at business. If I learned nothing else from watching him negotiate deals, create advertising campaigns for Christmas (in July!), and confront tough, hostile work situations – it was this: Always be kind and respectful even when you hate the guy.
Such talent for camaraderie, even among enemies, sustained him in business and teaching for nearly six decades His generous and comforting style impressed many generations of students at
I feel fortunate to have had a father like this, and I realize not everyone is as lucky. But for those of us who can trace the roots of our success to our dads, what better time to consider those lessons than this weekend, Father’s Day 2010.
Tune in this Sunday at 8:30 am Pacific Time to the Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary Insultant/Consultant Show and learn how the traits of being a good father can often influence a great management style.
Call in with your own stories – and hear Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary share some surprising secrets they picked up from their dads. Every day now when I look in the mirror, I see my dad. Age, I guess, does that to you, but I’ve been seeing my dad in me for decades. When my kids were little, I read to them from the same Golden books that my dad read to me. I took the time to help my kids with their English homework, editing (sometimes rewriting their sentences) much as my dad had done when I was struggling in high school. Just as he would often finish a phone conversation with “I love you,” I do the same with my kids. And the respect and love he showed for my mother, often leaving love notes strewn across every chairs and sofas throughout the house like fallen leaves, may not have quite inspired me but encouraged me to never be embarrassed by that mushy romantic stuff.. But the most important influence my dad had on me was his love of writing and his skill at business. If I learned nothing else from watching him negotiate deals, create advertising campaigns for Christmas (in July!), and confront tough, hostile work situations – it was this: Always be kind and respectful even when you hate the guy. Such talent for camaraderie, even among enemies, sustained him in business and teaching for nearly six decades His generous and comforting style impressed many generations of students at I feel fortunate to have had a father like this, and I realize not everyone is as lucky. But for those of us who can trace the roots of our success to our dads, what better time to consider those lessons than this weekend, Father’s Day 2010. Tune in this Sunday at 8:30 am Pacific Time to the Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary Insultant/Consultant Show and learn how the traits of being a good father can often influence a great management style. Call in with your own stories – and hear Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary share some surprising secrets they picked up from their dads.< --> Posted in The Mouth Trap | 2 Comments » LOOSE LIPS SINK SHIPSJune 11, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
This week the 89 year old Helen Thomas, a reporter who covered the administrations of ten presidents in a career spanning nearly sixty years, resigned after apologizing for her remarks about Israel.
She said Israelis should “get the hell out of Palestine” and should return to Germany, Poland and the USA.
One critic felt it was not the sentiment but the rough language that caused the controversy. Had she said, “Get the heck out of Palestine,” would the reaction have been different?
Frankly, the thoughts themselves are quite ridiculous: Go back to Germany? What was she thinking? If one puts it in perspective (she’s old, cranky, and near retirement), why blame her? She simply stayed on too long and should have been given Happy Acres contract years ago! Nevertheless, it has initiated an International incident.
Interesting how one comment can instantly label one of the most revered reporters of our time a traitor, even an enemy of the state! Loose lips sink ships, my mother once said, and this is a classic example of that…
In an age where TV, radio, twitter, facebook, and even marijuana induced memories cause us to record everything that is said on this planet, we have to be especially carefully about the words that fall out of our mouths.
One need only look at the comments from Toyota, British Petroleum, AIG and numerous other companies to realize words can haunt you…
Tune in this Sunday to discover some ways to see whether or not your employees have the lips that sink ships.
Do you have a Helen Thomas or a Carly Farina on your staff?
Did you just hire someone whose words fall out of her mouth like gumballs?
Let’s face it. No company can afford the loss of income, the law suits, let alone the political/social consequences of a very badly worded message. The good news? It can be avoided through some technology and techniques Dr. Gary and Dr. Brian will share with you this Sunday in a show that can’t be missed!
This week the 89 year old Helen Thomas, a reporter who covered the administrations of ten presidents in a career spanning nearly sixty years, resigned after apologizing for her remarks about Israel. She said Israelis should “get the hell out of Palestine” and should return to Germany, Poland and the USA. One critic felt it was not the sentiment but the rough language that caused the controversy. Had she said, “Get the heck out of Palestine,” would the reaction have been different? Frankly, the thoughts themselves are quite ridiculous: Go back to Germany? What was she thinking? If one puts it in perspective (she’s old, cranky, and near retirement), why blame her? She simply stayed on too long and should have been given Happy Acres contract years ago! Nevertheless, it has initiated an International incident. Interesting how one comment can instantly label one of the most revered reporters of our time a traitor, even an enemy of the state! Loose lips sink ships, my mother once said, and this is a classic example of that… In an age where TV, radio, twitter, facebook, and even marijuana induced memories cause us to record everything that is said on this planet, we have to be especially carefully about the words that fall out of our mouths. One need only look at the comments from Toyota, British Petroleum, AIG and numerous other companies to realize words can haunt you… Tune in this Sunday to discover some ways to see whether or not your employees have the lips that sink ships. Do you have a Helen Thomas or a Carly Farina on your staff? Did you just hire someone whose words fall out of her mouth like gumballs? Let’s face it. No company can afford the loss of income, the law suits, let alone the political/social consequences of a very badly worded message. The good news? It can be avoided through some technology and techniques Dr. Gary and Dr. Brian will share with you this Sunday in a show that can’t be missed!
Posted in The Mouth Trap | 21 Comments » How to Motivate Your Staff During Hard TimesJune 5, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
A Three-Part Phone Conversation with the Insultant/Consultant Team of Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary Imagine you’re in the travel business – in 2010 – and not only are people cutting back on their entertainment expenses, but every day another airline is announcing more restrictions, delays, up front costs, and security problems. Oil now threatens to destroy beach travel all across the South. Even new political changes and scandals (AIG, immigration laws) cause entire companies to boycott having conventions or conferences anywhere outside their warehouse. And to make matters worse, the whole of A Three-Part Phone Conversation with the Insultant/Consultant Team of Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary Imagine you’re in the travel business – in 2010 – and not only are people cutting back on their entertainment expenses, but every day another airline is announcing more restrictions, delays, up front costs, and security problems. Oil now threatens to destroy beach travel all across the South. Even new political changes and scandals (AIG, immigration laws) cause entire companies to boycott having conventions or conferences anywhere outside their warehouse. And to make matters worse, the whole of “Why bother? I’ll just take my two weeks, stay at home with my family, and barbecue,” one client told me. “This summer? We’re hiking, biking, and museum hopping at home,” said another. How do you inspire and motivate a staff to wake up every morning and feel like making wildly profitable cold calls when your clientele is shrinking and the world around you seems to be on the edge of default? Tune into their greatest challenge ever: Motivating the Unmotivated. This Sunday, Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary start a three part series about staying motivated during trying times. June 6 Part One: Learn how to distinguish yourself from other companies and other employees. How do you uniquely create your own niche through better email communication, better phone calls, more energized spirited positive messaging so that you go beyond the proverbial weather issues (the economy, competition, attracting customers, environment) June 13 Part Two: What can companies and employers do themselves that will inspire this positive attitude the moment the employee steps into the door? In fact, is there a test to see if you’re even capable of developing this distinguishable attitude? Tune into for some surprising tips on interview questions and systems you can institute to assure you’re hiring a “positive” person. June 20 Part Three: In honor of Father’s Day, Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary have a real surprise for you. What influences did your father or mother have on your ability to be motivated at work? Are some employees just simply better at this because of their upbringing? What can families do to inspire their children to develop a natural affinity to bounce back? Be positive? Be self-motivated? You can’t afford to miss this opportunity to hear two experts (the sickeningly tell it like it is Dr. Brian and the gleamingly glass-too-full Dr. Gary) to discuss new ways to deal with everyday employee problems and dilemmas. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Posted in The Mouth Trap | 20 Comments » When does assertive communication become too aggressive?May 14, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
Celebrities, business leaders, politicians are often respected for “speaking their mind.” Often we get hired for being clear, assertive and “pulling no punches.” Often times we are unaware when we step over the line and become perceived as insensitive unless a friend, colleague or boss let’s us know. The more you “get away” with risky communication, the more risks we take. Often when speaking in seminars, until I get the blank stare, or “Whoa” sound from the audience, or I receive evaluations, I may not know if I stepped over the line. This week, two crucial situations provided great examples of stepping over the line. The CEO of BP, Tony Hayward who was perceived as handling a major oil spill crisis in a proactive manner, offended all of his potential supports and the government by stating “It wasn’t our accident,” he told the Today Show on Monday. Pressed by anchor Meredith Vieira, Hayward claimed: “the drilling rig was a Transocean drilling rig. It was their rig and their equipment that failed, run by their people, their processes.” That statement caused an outcry from Gulf States suffering from the oil spill to call for more government oversight rather than rely on expert BP employees. Tuesday, Elizabeth Hasselbeck, commenting on Erin Andrew outfit on Dancing with the Stars said: “In light of what happened … and as inexcusable as it was for that horrific guy to go in and try to peep on her in her hotel room … I mean, in some way if I [was] him, I [would be] like, ‘Man! I just could’ve waited 12 weeks and seen this — a little bit less — without the prison time!’” On May 5, 2010, Hasselbeck apologized on the View and privately to Erin Andrews. Meanwhile, Elizabeth Hasselbeck has been told, even by her show co-hosts that she was insensitive and “way over the top.” Once people at work (or home) change their perception of you, or if you are perceived being aggressive it’s difficult to gain back trust or change the perception. The fact is, one year of perfect behavior/communication, followed by one mistake, can reinforce people’s negative perception of you. Whether you are in the public eye or not, here are some quick tips for staying on the assertive rather than aggressive side of Smart Communication: · Prepare notes, and refer to them during meetings or presentations. · If possible, record your ideas and play them back to yourself. How would you feel if you were the recipient? · Talk to a trusted source before you have to speak at the meeting or with a boss or client. · If you are put on the spot, or speaking off the cuff, take a deep breath and think for a moment. It’s okay to say, “Please just give me a moment to think, or could you repeat the question? Nobody at work or home expects you to speak like a professional. However, if you practice simple, Smart Communication techniques you can quickly be perceived as an excellent, Smart Communicator. Tune in Sunday morning when we talk on Blog talk Radio, the Consultant/Insultant at 8:30 AM http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Ever say something and get a blank stare from your listener? Or you’re talking at a meeting and somewhere in the audience you hear a “Whoa” sound. You can just feel this knot incubate in your stomach, realizing that you said something you know stepped over the line. It happens every day, of course, to famous people all over the world. This week, one crucial situation provided a great example of stepping over the line. The CEO of BP, Tony Hayward, was perceived as handling a major oil spill crisis in a proactive manner. But his comments offended all of his potential supporters and the government by stating “It wasn’t our accident,” he told the Today Show on Monday. Pressed by anchor Meredith Vieira, Hayward claimed: “The drilling rig was a Transocean drilling rig. It was their rig and their equipment that failed, run by their people, their processes.” That statement, blaming others and taking no responsibility himself, caused an outcry from Gulf States suffering from the oil spill. In fact, Hayward’s arrogance could easily characterize the tone of many CEOs in this era of financial collapse and ethical misconduct. Will Hayward (or managers at Goldman Sachs or hundreds of other CEOs in financial institutions across the land) win back the faith of the American people? Once people at work (or home) change their perception of you, or if you are perceived being aggressive, it’s difficult to gain back trust or change the perception. The fact is, one year of perfect behavior/communication, followed by one mistake, can reinforce people’s negative perception of you. Whether you are in the public eye or not, here are some quick tips for staying on the assertive rather than aggressive side of Smart Communication: · Prepare notes, and refer to them during meetings or presentations. · If possible, record your ideas and play them back to yourself. How would you feel if you were the recipient? · Talk to a trusted source before you have to speak at the meeting or with a boss or client. · If you are put on the spot, or speaking off the cuff, take a deep breath and think for a moment. It’s okay to say, “Please just give me a moment to think, or could you repeat the question? Nobody at work or home expects you to speak like a professional. However, if you practice simple, Smart Communication techniques you can quickly be perceived as an excellent, Smart Communicator. Tune in Sunday morning when we talk on Blog talk Radio, the Consultant/Insultant at 8:30 AM http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Posted in The Mouth Trap | 39 Comments » Ever surprised by how you are perceived by others at work?May 4, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
Remember the skills that got you hired? You were told some of the following traits were what the team or company needed:
Oops!! Then you receive the call to your boss’s office right before probation ends, or your performance review, or after a difficult project were completed. The conversation might be something like: “Hmm, the staff thinks you don’t listen to input and are too abrupt. You’re being accused of flirting, being sarcastic, too flexible, not taking charge…”
I know I was stunned the first time it happened to me. Why are some people perceived as great when they are assertive and brusque, and others are perceived as mean or abrasive for the same traits? When did being diplomatic get you hired but in trouble if a project is being done too slowly?
Often times our perception of ourselves is off base the first year on a new job. When you are brought into a team or company where other employees have been there more than a year, being the new kid on the block can be most difficult. Many of us forget that while people may put on a friendly exterior, trust can take up to a year to grow. People are judging us, and watching and testing. Work is political.
Some tips to make sure why you were hired are what keep you congruent:
Tune in Sunday morning when we talk on Blog talk Radio, the consultant/Insultant at 8:30 AM
Ever surprised by how you are perceived by others at work? Remember the skills that got you hired? You were told some of the following traits were what the team or company needed:
Oops!! Then you receive the call to your boss’s office right before probation ends, or your performance review begins, or after a difficult project is completed. The conversation might be something like: “Hmm, the staff thinks you don’t listen to input and are too abrupt. You’re being accused of flirting, being sarcastic, too flexible, not taking charge…” I know I was stunned the first time it happened to me. Why are some people perceived as great when they are assertive and brusque, and others are perceived as mean or abrasive for the same traits? When did being diplomatic get you hired but in trouble if a project is being done too slowly? Often times our perception of ourselves is off base the first year on a new job. When you are brought into a team or company where other employees have been there more than a year, being the new kid on the block can be most difficult. Many of us forget that while people may put on a friendly exterior, trust can take up to a year to grow. People are judging us, and watching and testing. Work is political. Here are some tips to make sure you stay on target:
Tune in Sunday morning when we talk on Blog talk Radio, the Consultant/Insultant at 8:30 AM http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Posted in The Mouth Trap | 13 Comments » Ask me a question – just not that one!May 1, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
Does the amount of money you are paid buy the right for an employer to ask insulting or intrusive questions? This is probably not a question one might expect applying for a bank vice president position, but in the NFL, where a player could earn over six figures and be a role model to millions, are such questions kosher? How did the NFL, current and former players react? Seventy percent of NFL administrators and former players said that when you might be paid THIRTY MILLION dollars, any question is allowed. Thirty percent of former administrators said it was unacceptable, and Mike Ditka, former coach of the Chicago Bears said “I might have hit him if he asked me that question.” What was the reaction at your workplace? While State and Federal laws impact every non-sports- related business, professional sports teams are not necessarily bound by all the same laws. Many business owners attempting to hire the right candidate in a flooded job market gather as much information as possible about an employee to protect the company. For example, if you suspected a candidate had a drug problem in the past, or a family member in prison, or a stint in a rehab center, can you bring those issues up? And how do you feel about being asked such intrusive questions? During this tight economy, many employees may feel they cannot defend themselves from aggressive, intrusive company practices. Are you able to be assertive and say “That is inappropriate? Can you back off or rephrase that?” Tune in this Sunday for the beginning of a three-week series on what can be said (or not said) at work, in interviews, and even in off-hours , when you might be sipping a beer with the CEO. Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary’s Insultant/Consultant Show always brings you surprising commentary and deliberate controversy. This Sunday at 8:30 AM PST http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Does the amount of money you are paid buy the right for an employer to ask insulting or intrusive questions? This week the NFL came into the public eye when the General Manager of the Miami Dolphins asked Dez Bryant, a potential player: “Is your mother a prostitute?” This is probably not a question one might expect applying for a bank vice president position, but in the NFL, where a player could earn over six figures and be a role model to millions, are such questions kosher? How did the NFL, current and former players react? Seventy percent of NFL administrators and former players said that when you might be paid THIRTY MILLION dollars, any question is allowed. Thirty percent of former administrators said it was unacceptable, and Mike Ditka, former coach of the Chicago Bears said “I might have hit him if he asked me that question.” What was the reaction at your workplace? Does the amount of money you are paid impact how much your privacy can be invaded? While State and Federal laws impact every non-sports- related business, professional sports teams are not necessarily bound by all the same laws. The GM ostensibly asked that question to see how the player would react under pressure, but was the question about his mother too personal and demeaning? Many business owners attempting to hire the right candidate in a flooded job market gather as much information as possible about an employee to protect the company. For example, if you suspected a candidate had a drug problem in the past, or a family member in prison, or a stint in a rehab center, can you bring those issues up? And how do you feel about being asked such intrusive questions? During this tight economy, many employees may feel they cannot defend themselves from aggressive, intrusive company practices. Are you able to be assertive and say “That is inappropriate? Can you back off or rephrase that?” Tune in this Sunday for the beginning of a three-week series on what can be said (or not said) at work, in interviews, and even in off-hours , when you might be sipping a beer with the CEO. Dr. Brian and Dr. Gary’s Insultant/Consultant Show always brings you surprising commentary and deliberate controversy. This Sunday at 8:30 AM PST http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Posted in The Mouth Trap | 4 Comments » Family and Friends: E-mail and the art of managing anger and miscommunicationApril 24, 2010 by Gary Seigel.
Dear Bill, I talked to cousin Sam yesterday and he said you were supposed to call me re: the funeral. I was so upset you didn’t call me. I would not have missed it for anything. Next time, call me when someone dies in the family. Love, Marla ——————————————————————————————————— Dear Marla, You didn’t go to either of my sons’ weddings last year. Why would you suddenly appear at a funeral? And I didn’t call you because Sam said he’d make those calls himself. You should know me better than that. Bill ——————————————————————————————————— Dear Bill I’m sorry. I wasn’t mad at you. That’s just the information I got. You know I was sick last year and couldn’t make either of the weddings. Don’t have such a fit. Marla ——————————————————————————————————- Dear Marla, I’m not having a fit… Next time, pick up the phone and ask me what’s going on rather than accuse me via mail.
Bill Dear Bill, What accusations are you talking about? Marla
And it goes on and on. The two bicker back and forth, never picking up the phone to discuss the matter, and before you know, the emails are forwarded to family and friends, each one defending their position. Ever have an email war with your family? Tension builds. Frustrations grow out of control. And whatever you put in your writing, it’s there forever. A lot of times we forget embarrassing and shameful things that are said out loud. They just disappear out of our memory. But with emails, they live forever. They could survive an Icelandic volcano, because they are invisible creatures that never die. Find out how to control them and keep your family safe from troublesome emails. Tune into Dr. Gary and Dr Brian’s Insultant/ Consultant Show this Sunday at 8:30 am and discover some tricks, secrets, and strategies for keeping you and your family out of email hell. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/consultantinsultant Posted in The Mouth Trap | 6 Comments » |